Of course watching porn doesn’t necessarily lead to addiction, just as using sex toys doesn’t mean you won’t see daylight for months on end. Porn is used in many ways and it doesn’t have to be a negative impact on peoples lives. Using any sex aid can be a satisfying way of enjoying yourself and your partner without becoming a demonic act. The media is all too quick vilify those who engage in sexual pursuits and this is both patronising and annoying, on that note I’m off to surf for some quality porn.

Naughty Girl – If the lady in your life has a wicked side and enjoys naughtiness in the bedroom you can choose something a little more adventurous than the Rabbit Vibrator. As a naughty girl will know her G Spot from her P Spot why not go for the Rock Chick for dual stimulation gained by rocking with the toy or the Bad Boy which you can both share and remove the bullet for stimulation during sex itself. The naughty Girl will certainly enjoy a little anal play and a nice vibrating butt plug like the Plugzzz will satisfy you both during sex and foreplay.

Nice Girl – if your lady is on the tame side then it’s probably best not to plump for anything that will be likely to scare her off. Rabbit Vibrators are a girl’s best friend and a safe bet as they are so readily displayed at hen Nights and Ann Summers parties. A discreet vibrator will also be welcomed such as the Discretion Vibe or Bswish range of girly vibes. The small and quiet vibrator will encourage her naughty side but make her feel safe that the choice still has a feminine discretion.

The Dominatrix – if your lady loves to take the lead and make you pay in the bedroom the usual Bondage choices will all apply. For something a little different try a strap on for her to use on you. The Fetish Fantasy Heart Strap On has a cute heart shaped front to the dildo strap on and will allow your lady to enjoy her dominating side. Lelo do a designer range of soft bondage accessories for a luxury gift. Choose from cuffs, restraints, whips and a feather tickler that will arrive ready gift boxed for an impressive Valentine offering.

Lover of Luxury – If your lady loves the finer things in life try the plethora of designer sex toys on offer. Jimmyjane and Lelo are our favourite high-end sex toy manufacturers. They both offer different types of lady pleaser but together cover all genres of sex toy. Lelo’s Nea is a fabulous clitoral vibrator that every woman would love whilst Jimmyjane’s Form 2 is a favourite clitoral stimulator in the top price bracket.

 This voucher gives the bearer the right to exchange for a damn good blowjob at any given moment subject to the terms and conditions as below.

 You will not be able to endorse the voucher up to 24 hours after consuming the following: Spicy food, cigarettes and alcohol whereas the feasting on strawberries, fresh vegetables, kiwi’s and melons will make for a longer and more enjoyable session of fellatio

Smegma and stale wee wee will be removed before the said oral act has begun and although an all round clean cock is required it should still have a scent of man and not brut about it.

 Trim your bush before redeeming voucher to a neat and manageable patch and tug at any hairs to ensure they stay in place and do not end up in partner’s teeth before the job is done – Thank you!    

It is all too obvious to concentrate on the penis shaft but consider concentrating on the individual sensitive spots on your man’s penis which will benefit from some extra attention. The Frenulum is the stringy ridge of membrane which joins the head and shaft just under the tip of the head itself. It looks much like a saggy banjo string but don’t let that put you off as men have a hyper sensitivity there. Simply flick the string with your tongue or use the flat of your tongue to massage the area. Doing this whist pulling in his shaft will have him moaning with pleasure.

If you are unsure of what he likes ask him to demonstrate on your finger (your realistic dildo might be taking it a tad too far!). Watching your man  suck and lick your finger will get things started for you both and you can then recreate the act on his cock to finish what he started!

Make a noise and your partner will enjoy the experience even more. Moaning and groaning will communicate to your man that his penis is indeed gorgeous, that you find him highly arousing, it stimulates his sense of hearing that you enjoy his manhood and the vibrations created from the noise itself can provide an extra stimulus.

Look your man in the eye with the dirtiest eyes you can muster and this will help to turn him on. Look through your eyelashes in a naughty gobble monster way not in a bright eyed Mary Poppins style!

Make sure that his penis is wet whilst you perform your oral feat, if you struggle with natural saliva then opt for a flavoured lubricant to keep things slippery and moving.

What is the key component to good anal sex? Relaxation. Really the stumbling block is a mental one with a relaxed attitude budding from an alleviation of concerns that stem from taboos, myths and old wives tales. Anal stimulation feels good full stop and avoiding this area due to a few strange ideas we harbour is a shame. Here’s our guide to good anal play whether straight or gay.

Ever heard of analingus? Its cunninlingus at the rear entrance. Lets call it oral rosebud stimulation if that sounds more palatable. Rimming (another term in the glossary) may not sound very sexy on the surface but in fact kissing and licking this delicate area can be a highly erotic and intimate act. Obviously in the interests of hygiene your lover needs to wash the anal area before delving in but you can also buy latex barriers or use cling film to stretch over, as it won’t affect the enjoyment level for your partner.

Fingers make for brilliant anal sex toys and all you need is a little sex lube and a gentle approach. It’s a good idea to begin a little anal fingering during oral sex for added stimulation and a distraction from the bum play for the novice. You will soon find that you are relaxed and enjoying every moment! Try and find the prostate for fabulous manipulation of the male g spot. Simply insert your finger and make a beckoning motion so that your finger massages the rectal wall. If you do this whilst giving a blow job your man will be shot to heaven.

If you have decided to go for the full anal penetration then warm things up with a finger and lube or small sex toy designed for anal pleasure. Butt Plugs are brilliant for getting the party started and relax the sphincter muscles in preparation for penetration. Whether you are using a dildo, butt plug or penis take things very slowly. Insert a little way and wait for the muscle to relax around the member. Let your partner decide how deep the toy or cock should go and don’t push it as the sex will only feel uncomfortable and suddenly comes to an end. Before you begin thrusting with your partner they may need to just get used to having something inside their anal passage. Once full motion sex is underway you will find that anal penetration contributes to orgasm and heightens genital sensitivity.

‘Packing’ means wearing a dildo under your clothes. The key is too arrange the chosen phallus in an interesting way so that it looks aesthetically pleasing, primarily to pass as a man. To do this correctly the ‘packer’ arranges the dildo so that it reflects a flaccid cock, assuming that most men don’t walk around fully erect this gives the realistic impression the wearer desires. Dildos used for sex are usually too big and bulky for successful ‘packing’ and much discussion abounds regarding the ideal material to us. It has been discovered that rolling up hair gel into nylon stocking produced the best bulge.

When it comes to modern sex toys, the transgender, drag queen or butch doesn’t have to worry about finding a suitable dildo to place in their pants. The cyberskin dildos available nowadays are perfect  flaccid packers, they sit comfortably without the fuss of old fashioned contraptions and they make a good silhouette in a pair of tight jeans. Sometimes the goal of packing is to enjoy sex at any given moment. Packing a dick ready for action can prove something of a problem as the larger solid dildos look odd beneath clothes and the softer dildo is too flaccid for successful sex. One answer is to wear a jock strap with the larger sex toys and if discovered just raise an eyebrow and smile!